I used to blame someone or something for everything that caused me unhappiness - the company I worked for was so disorganised so I was unhappy with my job; my ex couldn't decide if he wanted to get back together or not so my 'relationship' sucked; the flatmate was so annoying so I hated where I lived; I'm overweight so I hated how I looked, and more whinging and moaning.
I read this from my happiness journal a few months ago: "You are the only person truly in control of your life, and that control is there for you to take... Your happiness should depend on nobody but yourself." It sounds pretty common sense, but, if I really think about it, how much did I actually do to make sure that I took control of my life and my happiness? Did I doing anything aside from complain? Was everything really out of my control that I couldn't change the situations that made me sad/angry? Was it really somebody else's fault that I was unhappy?
And when I look back at the past few years of my life, I realised that it really is up to me and me alone to make myself happy. When I recall the times that I started becoming happier, it was because I took control and did something about what was making me unhappy. I changed jobs, I told the ex to eff off, and I moved out.
How do you take charge of your own happiness?